Divorce: The First Six Months with Peter Maestrey
Episodes
194 episodes
Segev Perets - I did not know how to honor myself.
Segev is the first person we have a conversation with within DTF6M that is technically not divorced, but has gone through or is going through what a divorced person goes through. He has two boys, the youngest with special needs and he is a Masc...
Segev Perets - First thing that comes to my mind
In this episode, we listen to Segev speak about how important it is for him that his kids know that they are loved. He shares how he used to think that being in their lives all the time meant being a good father, especially during the first six...
Segev Perets - I made myself sick managing other people's expectations
In this episode, we look into expectations and the many things that showed up around it with Segev. From being obese with skin issues and diagnosed with an autoimmune deficiency disease to the start of his healing, which began when he stopped g...
Segev Perets - Your kids need you inspired, happy, lit up, fulfilled, nourished.
In this episode, we look at the elements that made his life liveable. How finding himself again began with a choice and how the actions of that choice led him here. We learn the importance of reconnecting with one's self and how Segev discovere...
Segev Perets - Whenever you are not in acceptance of what there is, there is fucking pain.
In this episode, Segev shares how uncomfortable it is to go against the grain, to risk self-expression. How within his life he has maneuvered to gain acceptance and love out of others expectations. He speaks about how much he cried during his f...
Segev Perets - I am a man and I serve love.
In our final episode with Segev, we begin with a mantra he follows. "I am man and I serve love." He shares how this helped him, how it shaped him and how he just more of that now. As we begin to realize that we are completing our conversation, ...
Mom - Letting go of the physical person
In the first ever interview for this podcast my mom Rosi Maestrey tells us of the exact moment she knew she wanted a divorce and how she distinguished it. She talks about what it was like to walk into an empty space and how she never saw any ef...
Mom - Ep. 1.4 - You shouldn't settle
13 years of marriage ended with Rosi choosing to not live like that anymore. She felt lost, as if someone had taken something from her. She shares the experience of what it was like to blame herself and how important it is to talk about your fe...
Mom - Ep.1.3 - I was treated like a porcelain doll, and then we got married.
When asked would she do it all over again Rosi replied "I'd run and not wait so many years". It wasn't until she began to peel the onion of her relationship did she begin to see him for who he was. She talks about valuing yourself and letting t...
Mom - Ep.1.2 - I married Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
The moral of this episode is that when you love them, you make excuses. Rosi talks about her self esteem being attacked and how she learned to get it back. She was always stressed out and didn't realize why.
Alex - Ep.2.5 - Don't confuse the kids
In this episode Alex speaks of the importance of being conscious around the kids. To not confuse them with your actions by introducing someone new. Let things settle and then introduce any new person you or your ex dates little by little. Try t...
Alex - Ep.2.4 - As a child I went through a divorce
In this episode Alex speaks of how his father joined a group when he went through his divorce. He talks about guilt and feeling wrong. He goes on to say how the two most important people in a child’s point of view are their parents. Kids should...
Alex - Ep.2.3 - Partners will never be parents to our kids
In this episode we explore communication and what could have been done differently. The cost of falling into routine and the importance of staying calm. Alex goes on to share how once he told his truth he had the feeling of a hug weight being l...
Alex - Ep.2.2 - I think I did it well?
In this episode we learn how Alex met his Ex-wife and shares about the road towards the inevitable divorce. Admitting along the way that the most important thing to him was for his kids to feel safe. When asked if he would do anything different...
Alex - Ep.2.1 - I stayed for the kids
In this episode Alex shares how long they were together, the time it took to separate and the day he knew it was over for him. He talks about the use of a lawyer and when he chose to begin the legal process. We learn about his guilt and why he ...
Johnny - Ep.3.5 - Do not give up
This episode has Johnny sharing how he prepped for the first six months and how no matter what someone tells you, it is when you accept what’s happening that you begin to understand. He talks about the timeframe in which he did everything, what...
Johnny - Ep.3.4 - “If it isn’t written, it isn’t true”
In this episode things get twisted around and Johnny becomes the interviewer and I the interviewee. I share with him how chasing “why” and the importance of writing this down saved me from gaslighting. I also explain that writing things down sa...
Johnny - Ep.3.3 - I trust you 100% till you prove me wrong
This episode talks about the anxiety of waiting for it to be over and the importance of having a date when it’s done and over. Having a finality to it gives you a goal. He shares about how he suppressed the critical moments in the beginning wit...
Johnny - Ep.3.2 - Her cheating gave me freedom
In this episode we learn how the routine of what you know changes immediately and how that chaos causes you to search for “why”. We examine the many things that the first month starts to reveal and what begins to take shape. Expecting com...
Johnny - Ep.3.1 - The freak show of what happens now!
n this episode Johnny Fumero talks us through the rollercoaster of the first six months. The emotional stages, how young he was going through it and the freak show that a divorce becomes. He shares about his father’s sage advice about how his f...
Madeline Rozwat - Ep.4.5 - Blocking things out is just blocking you out
In this episode Madeline shares the importance of instinct and trusting your gut before getting married. She talks about having self awareness about you are saying and why when speaking to others. She also shares what she would do differe...
Madeline Rozwat - Ep.4.4 - I wanted to be divorced sooner, then he…
In this episode we talk about her separation process in the F6M and how they both wanted a clean divorce. Madeline shares who got the dog and why. We learn about how important it is to set boundaries with lawyers and how it sometimes takes a po...
Madeline Rozwat - Ep.4.3 - Work, Play, Friends. They are all necessary.
In this episode you will learn how Madeline viewed exercising and what the outcome of consistency is over the long term. She talks about balance and focus and how it is all necessary to keep you grounded. She also shares something very personal...
Madeline Rozwat - Ep.4.2 - I had no expectations
In this episode we talk about how the divorce was mutual and how the process of others influenced her. “Sometimes you have to cut people out because they can’t deal with it”. She goes on to share how listening to a song can trigger a memory and...
Madeline Rozwat - Ep.4.1 - The beginning is messy and not linear
In this episode Madeline shares about living in San Francisco and what it was like without any single friends at the start of her divorce. She shares how building that community was important and how it made a difference for her. She then...
